I found this quote online a few months ago when I was writing a post on grief. Since it comes from one of the people who lived on the frontline with those who were dying or had loved ones who were, I trust Elizabeth Kubler Ross.
I was so fortunate to come upon some posts on complex grief a few days ago and I have reblogged several of them. Another one I read said that in our modern society the full impact and purpose of grief is not fully understood, so when we are grieving we are most likely not to be helped to express it. We are often shut down by those who think they are well meaning. We can be avoided or looked at askance.
When I was at one of my lowest points following the end of my marriage 11 years into sobriety and had with that…
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By MARY HUI | The Washington Post
October 20, 2017 at 9:03 pm
Demonstrators gather at the site of a planned speech by white nationalist Richard
Spencer, who popularized the term ‘alt-right’, at the University of Florida campus on
Oct. 19, 2017 in Gainesville, Florida. A state of emergency was declared on Monday by
Florida Gov. Rick Scott to allow for increased law enforcement due to fears of
Wearing a white T-shirt emblazoned with swastikas, Randy Furniss, hands in his pockets,
walked slowly through a crowd Thursday that had largely gathered to protest white
nationalist Richard Spencer, who was delivering a speech at the University of Florida.
Days before Florida Gov. Rick Scott, R, had warned in an executive order that a “threat of a potential emergency is imminent” in Alachua County, where the University of Florida is
located, noting that prior speaking engagements involving Spencer have sparked protest
The event was Spencer’s first public speech on a college campus since he led hundreds of
torch-bearing white supremacists, white nationalists and others through the University of Virginia in a far-right rally in August that preceded a weekend of violent protests in
Charlottesville. More than 500 law enforcement officers were deployed, with snipers
positioned on the roofs of nearby buildings.
“Go home, Nazi scum!” the crowd chanted, jeering at Furniss, of Idaho.
Suddenly, an individual in a green hoodie punched Furniss in the face, before quickly
disappearing into the crowd. Furniss recoiled, but carried on walking. Blood trickled from his lip down his chin. Then something unexpected happened.
A man went up to Furniss and gave him a hug, wrapping an arm around the Nazi’s
shoulders, and another arm around his shaved head.
“Why don’t you like me, dog?” the man asked Furniss.
The man, identied by the New York Daily News as Aaron Courtney, is a 31-year-old high
school football coach in Gainesville, Florida. He said he wanted to show Furniss some love.
“I could have hit him, I could have hurt him . . . but something in me said, ‘You know what?
He just needs love,’ ” Courtney told the Daily News.
The hug may have been a small act, but Courtney thinks it can speak volumes.
“It’s a step in the right direction. One hug can really change the world. It’s really that
simple,” he said.
Courtney did not immediately respond to requests for comment.
Furniss, a self-described white nationalist, explained his views to News4Jax.
“They want what we have. And we just want them to shut up and get on with life,” Furniss said. “They’re being raised up and it’s getting to the point where they want to push us down. That’s not right.”
Furniss could not be immediately reached for comment.
Courtney hadn’t originally planned on attending the protest. But he was surprised when he received a state of emergency notification on Monday, ahead of Spencer’s planned
appearance, the Daily News reported.
Courtney didn’t recognize Spencer’s name, and decided to do some research.
“I found out about what kind of person he was and that encouraged me, as an AfricanAmerican, to come out and protest,” Courtney said. “Because this is what we’re trying to avoid. It’s people like him who are increasing the distance . . . between people.”
Courtney was about to leave the protest, having already spent almost four hours at the
scene, when he saw Furniss causing a scene in the crowd, the Daily News reported.
“I had the opportunity to talk to someone who hates my guts and I wanted to know why.
During our conversation, I asked him, ‘Why do you hate me? What is it about me? Is it my skin color? My history? My dreadlocks?’ ” he said. Courtney repeatedly asked Furniss for an answer, only to be met with silence and a blank look.
Exasperated, Courtney asked Furniss for a hug. He was initially reluctant, but as Courtney reached over the third time, Furniss reciprocated, wrapping his arms around Courtney.
“And I heard God whisper in my ear, ‘You changed his life,’ ” Courtney said.
“Why do you hate me?” Courtney asked Furniss one last time.
“I don’t know,” Furniss finally answered, Courtney said.
For Courtney, that was a good enough answer.
“I believe that was his sincere answer. He really doesn’t know,” Courtney said.
Inside the school, Spencer’s speech was repeatedly disrupted and drowned out by people
shouting at him. After the speech, three men were arrested and charged with attempted homicide after arguing with protesters and firing a shot at them, police said.
The Washington Post’s Joe Heim and Abigail Hauslohner contributed to this report.
Face Your Fears and Be Strong!
By Dawn Onley
It’s quite possible that we cannot fully realize our potential until we exercise faith. In love. In the pursuit of our passions. In our vocations. In healing. In life.
Repeatedly we are instructed on the importance of faith, from a spiritual context:
“Faith can move mountains.” – Matthew 17:20
“Faith is a living, daring confidence in God’s grace, so sure and certain that a man could stake his life on it a thousand times.” – Martin Luther
“Faith is to believe what you do not see; the reward of this faith is to see what you believe.” – Saint Augustine
And we have also been reminded of how faith works in a secular context through popular self-help speakers and in motivational books. One of my favorite quotes about faith comes from educator and civil rights activist, Mary McLeod Bethune: “Without faith, nothing is possible. With it, nothing…
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Dear Friends and Quote Lovers,
So now, I think my life will be returning some normality, and that means quotes can return to http://www.thoughtsnlifeblog.com on weekly basis every Friday (Previously, every Saturday).
I thought I would choose quotes around Happiness. It is important to have focus, and Happiness is a good topic to quote about😆.
Happiness is an internal commodity, which cannot be replaced by anything external.
H- Harmony I honour who I am and I live in Harmony with myself and others.
A – I Accept myself as I am, know I can improve.
P – I am Patient with all my efforts to improve myself.
P – I am peaceful and I trust life
I – I am innocent in life, but not stupid. I live with Integrity.
N – I am noble but not arrogant. I value me and others.
E – I am easy natured with myself…
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